Comments on: Hyper-Parenting by Listening to the Experts http://moonshadows.homeschooljournal.net/2006/06/17/hyper-parenting-by-listening-to-the-experts/ Just another Homeschooljournal.net weblog Thu, 08 Jan 2009 06:14:52 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=wordpress-mu-1.2.4 By: moonshadows http://moonshadows.homeschooljournal.net/2006/06/17/hyper-parenting-by-listening-to-the-experts/#comment-36 moonshadows Thu, 22 Jun 2006 02:08:43 +0000 http://moonshadows.homeschooljournal.net/2006/06/17/hyper-parenting-by-listening-to-the-experts/#comment-36 I like how Willa said it. Reading the experts helps me to clarify and undertand my point of view. I think it is worthwhile to read some parenting books, while being careful not to get overwhelmed by them. One (dare I say troll) person commented (I deleted it) that I should stop reading books and spend time with my kids. Um, hello, I spend MOST of my time with my kids. I don't think some side reading is detrimental to them or to me. The main point of Hyper-parenting is that I should be sure to maintain my sense of self and do things apart from my kids. I don't read ONLY parenting books, but as this is a community of homeschoolers, reviews on books about parenting and homeschooling seem to be more appropriate than my reviewing A Short History of Scotland or Life of Pi. I like how Willa said it. Reading the experts helps me to clarify and undertand my point of view.

I think it is worthwhile to read some parenting books, while being careful not to get overwhelmed by them.

One (dare I say troll) person commented (I deleted it) that I should stop reading books and spend time with my kids. Um, hello, I spend MOST of my time with my kids. I don’t think some side reading is detrimental to them or to me. The main point of Hyper-parenting is that I should be sure to maintain my sense of self and do things apart from my kids.

I don’t read ONLY parenting books, but as this is a community of homeschoolers, reviews on books about parenting and homeschooling seem to be more appropriate than my reviewing A Short History of Scotland or Life of Pi.

]]> By: momof3feistykids http://moonshadows.homeschooljournal.net/2006/06/17/hyper-parenting-by-listening-to-the-experts/#comment-25 momof3feistykids Sun, 18 Jun 2006 12:08:39 +0000 http://moonshadows.homeschooljournal.net/2006/06/17/hyper-parenting-by-listening-to-the-experts/#comment-25 This is a thoughtful and balanced post. :-) I gain a great deal from "experts" when I read a variety of different points of view, weigh what each one offers against my own experiences and my particular children's needs, and incorporate it into my own beliefs and practices in an eclectic way. I hope this makes sense. I have been inspired by Charlotte Mason, Ruth Beechick, John Holt, and many others. This is a thoughtful and balanced post. :-) I gain a great deal from “experts” when I read a variety of different points of view, weigh what each one offers against my own experiences and my particular children’s needs, and incorporate it into my own beliefs and practices in an eclectic way. I hope this makes sense. I have been inspired by Charlotte Mason, Ruth Beechick, John Holt, and many others.

]]> By: Cindy http://moonshadows.homeschooljournal.net/2006/06/17/hyper-parenting-by-listening-to-the-experts/#comment-21 Cindy Sun, 18 Jun 2006 04:31:57 +0000 http://moonshadows.homeschooljournal.net/2006/06/17/hyper-parenting-by-listening-to-the-experts/#comment-21 I think this is such an important point! I am SO in to trusting parents. Sometimes, these days, in the homeschooling world, and particularly in the unschooling world, there is so much talk of trusting the children, but I see it not being extended to trusting each other as parents! I am SO thankful I grew up in homeschooling through my own process of learning. As I granted myself that time, I also do the same for my children :-) It seems with the information age of sharing, there comes good and bad. We can now get together in so many ways, especially virtually. But with that came an increase in "expertness" and "how to's". I found myself even as a twelve year veteran at the time of entering the on-line world of homeschooling feeling inadequate. So, in time, after I went through my own learning curve with it all, I became a strong advocate in helping parents believe in themselves, their intuition as you mentioned, and their process. To me, the process is amazing . . . enjoy it; embrace it. And then, so will our children as they stumble and progress. Okay, off my own soapbox . . . LOL! I think this is such an important point! I am SO in to trusting parents. Sometimes, these days, in the homeschooling world, and particularly in the unschooling world, there is so much talk of trusting the children, but I see it not being extended to trusting each other as parents! I am SO thankful I grew up in homeschooling through my own process of learning. As I granted myself that time, I also do the same for my children :-)

It seems with the information age of sharing, there comes good and bad. We can now get together in so many ways, especially virtually. But with that came an increase in “expertness” and “how to’s”. I found myself even as a twelve year veteran at the time of entering the on-line world of homeschooling feeling inadequate.

So, in time, after I went through my own learning curve with it all, I became a strong advocate in helping parents believe in themselves, their intuition as you mentioned, and their process. To me, the process is amazing . . . enjoy it; embrace it. And then, so will our children as they stumble and progress.

Okay, off my own soapbox . . . LOL!

]]> By: willa http://moonshadows.homeschooljournal.net/2006/06/17/hyper-parenting-by-listening-to-the-experts/#comment-19 willa Sat, 17 Jun 2006 15:25:49 +0000 http://moonshadows.homeschooljournal.net/2006/06/17/hyper-parenting-by-listening-to-the-experts/#comment-19 At the best, I read parenting books so I can have a mental conversation with the author and clarify my own point of view. But of course, there's always the possibility of getting overwhelmed by "expertise" and losing my own intuition. That usually happens when I'm feeling uncertain already. So I think the most helpful books for me are the ones that offer general tips that are similar to what I'm already doing, and don't guarantee perfection. Thanks for keeping up this series, it's very interesting! At the best, I read parenting books so I can have a mental conversation with the author and clarify my own point of view. But of course, there’s always the possibility of getting overwhelmed by “expertise” and losing my own intuition. That usually happens when I’m feeling uncertain already. So I think the most helpful books for me are the ones that offer general tips that are similar to what I’m already doing, and don’t guarantee perfection. Thanks for keeping up this series, it’s very interesting!

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